Saturday, July 16, 2016

If It's Not Unconditional, It's Not Love, BM Day 2

© Written by Tarang Sinha




Love is a strong emotion but it's vulnerable as well. Love can get affected/tainted easily by other strong emotions like jealousy, anger, obsession.

Love needs some space to breathe, and when then space gets smothered, the essence of love starts dying, slowly. Beauty of love lies in respecting that space and helping each other grow.

It is natural to have a difference of opinion, even if you are in love. It is okay to get upset with each other. You should not hesitate to voice your own opinion just because you are in love with that person. But, the bond of understanding should be intact. Even if a certain condition irks you, it should not change your feelings/views for each other. It should not hamper the trust and support you nurture for each other. If your emotions change with different conditions, it's not love.

You can't un-love your loved one just because of a condition that didn't go well with you! You have to be brave enough to accept the flaws.You have to be brave enough to forgive. You have to be brave enough to say a sorry.

Conditions change the meaning of love. If it's not unconditional, it's not love.

Fight, disagree, get upset or angry but don't let it blur your sanity. Do not let these emotions paint your feelings. They should be like that thin film of dust. One blow, and the flurry of tainted emotions disappear, leaving your true feeling shinning like before.

But, the question is: Do people actually feel this way? Is it easy to deal with those conditions and think clearly without changing your emotions?


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17 comments:

  1. While reading book, if you hold it too close to your eyes, you can't read and if you hold it too far, then your vision blurs and reading becomes difficult. You've to hold the book in such an angle that you can read the book comfortably. Reading is joy and so are relationships.
    The warmth a strong bond gives us is a blessing.I feel when we are able to see people as they are and not as they behave, that's when we strengthen our relationships.When we realise people and their behaviours are two different things, we will resound in a much better way.
    Love and gratitude,
    Gayu

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  2. Agree Tarang..If there are conditions..its not love!

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  3. Unconditional love...sounds lovely, but in reality, I don't think it really exists. Everyone puts conditions, expectations, on those they love the most, no?

    Cheers!
    Modern Gypsy

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  4. Unconditional love...it sounds lovely, but I think most people put conditions/expectations on those they love. It's human nature...no?

    Cheers!
    Modern Gypsy

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  5. Conditions can't be a base of love !!

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  6. Such a post that make the love and it's associated emotions crystal clear and a good mean to just focus on true love than being in a love full of fake emotions. To add on i love the way u put your blog theme in a diary, such lovely it looks :)

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  7. The course of true love never did run smooth--William Shakespeare

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  8. @ Gayu: Very well said! And, that's an interesting perspective!

    @ Deepa: :)

    @ Modern Gypsy: Unfortunately, yes! But, that's a fake or maybe weak face of love.

    You shower love only when I agree with you or make you happy in every possible way? You turn bitter the moment I voice my opinion, or do something that irks you or doesn't go well with you. Not done!

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  9. @ Ruchi: True!

    @ Shalini: Thank you, Shalini! Glad you liked it :)

    @ C.TdeF: That's true!

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  10. Very nice interpretation of true love....

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  11. Is there any love that's not conditional? I wonder.

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  12. @ Ashwini: Glad you think so. Thank you! :)

    @ Tomichan: Not so common among couples but common between child and parent. Expectations are there too but in this case feelings don't change if expectations are not met (you may feel disappointed but you still love your children and pray for their best!)

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  13. Break-ups only show that love is not unconditional.Practicality always overtakes imagination.

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  14. That's a really sensible thing I've read today. Yes, love needs to be nurtured, it needs it's own space and if not given it starts suffocating!
    Well written Tarag :)

    Cheers

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  15. @ Geets: Glad you like it. Thank you! :)

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  16. I think in the modern world the word love has been interpretted the wrong way .. at least thats what i think.. love does not mean one has to be lovely all the time or spend all the time together etc etc .. Love for sure is something that grows.. as we grow..

    Bikram's

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