Showing posts with label Thoughts. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Thoughts. Show all posts

Monday, September 1, 2025

When No One Was Looking: Whispering Shadows

             

             

                      📸: Pinterest 



When no one was looking, the afternoon sun shifted and the Palash tree, laden with crimson flowers, cast its enchanting shadows on the pale yellow wall, the paint chipped from several spots. At the same time, its fluttering leaves and swaying branches made purplish patterns on the deserted coal tar road that wound and vanished after a few meters.  

You pause to reflect, and some distant memory rushed back. 

You've always been inexplicably fascinated by the interplay of the light and shadows. In your childhood home, in that small room that stood at the corner of the courtyard, right under the guava tree, its branches resting on the tiled roof of the room, as you looked out the small window in the middle of the night, you caught the full moon peeking through the foliage. The moonbeam filtered through the checkered grill and fell on the hard floor creating black and white patterns. They seemed to coalesce into fleeting shapes, murmuring half-forgotten stories.

The whispering shadows seem to be talking, tugging at an unknown memory, churning some unexplainable emotions, tucked somewhere. They evoke a bizarre feeling, transporting you somewhere faraway, and you envision yourself somewhere ethereal —a place totally unknown yet so dearly familiar, like you have been to that place before, as though you know it like every corner of your being. 

A sparrow fluttered its wings and alighted at the windowsill, its neck making spasmodic motions, and just like that, you were snapped back to present.

You sigh and get up from the window. You have chores to do. But yet again, a memory was relived; your attention, for a change, steady for an unusually long time, your mobile phone quietly forgotten. 

The sunlight would move again tomorrow, just as quietly, just as unnoticed. And maybe, like today, you’ll again stop for a second to see it, or maybe you won’t. Either way, it will keep moving, whispering a secret, and you will keep breathing in the spaces between. 




Friday, June 28, 2024

The Write Path: Reading Like a Writer



(I love this quotation. Found it on Pinterest)


I remember co-writing a short story with my cousin for a story competition conducted by Nandan (a children's magazine we used to read) and then discussing a suitable title for that story. The stories published in Nandan used to have funny titles so we, two little girls, were thinking on similar lines. It was a silly story, I am sure of that. And obviously, we didn't get any prize for our writing skills.


It does not mean that I have always wanted to be a writer. Writing (or translation) was never on my mind as a career. One thing that has been constant in my life that I have always loved to read. And I never thought that I was doing something special. I just enjoyed reading. I remember once someone said, ‘Kuchh aur na mile to ye baithkar advertisements bhi padh legi.’ 


But one thing that I realized later was that reading voraciously can steer you toward the path of writing.


I read for pleasure, to be honest. The book has to be entertaining, however, I have evolved as a reader over time. I have learnt to experiment with the genres. While I enjoy the book as a reader, the writer in me cannot help but think about the craft of writing or analyze it critically. And sometimes I read a book for the sheer beauty and crispness of the writing, even if the story is not very entertaining. 


Recently I was reading a book called ‘Night and its Longings’ by Philip Cioffari. It's a mystery with a hint of romance: about the disappearance of a woman, Vera. And her husband, feeling helpless, reaches out to the woman’s ex-lover seeking help.


It was 82 chapters long, painfully slow for this genre. An impatient reader that I am, I began to lose interest after 42 chapters. But I managed up to 42 chapters because the writing was so beautiful —the imagery, thoughts, emotions…


So basically, now I read like a writer. Beautiful writing makes me feel so good. It inspires me to work hard as a writer. It tells me not to fall in love with my own writing; I have a long way to go. I need to learn and grow. 


Reading a well written book is kind of studying the craft of writing. And it took me a long time to understand that. I've come to realise that no creative writing course can teach you what reading a good book can. 


2023 was very enriching for me as a reader, writer and as a translator. I feel thrilled and thankful for my latest translation, which is ‘Ramrajya’ by Ashutosh Rana. It's an amazing book and translating it was such a wonderful, fulfilling and enlightening experience. 


I did a Bookish Q & A Post last year.

There was a question: Favourite new author 2023


And my prompt response was: Arunava Sinha, Madhulika Liddle and Jerry Pinto. Mainly because of their writing ― neat and crisp sentences, engaging writing style that flows so smoothly.


Now that I am a translator, I naturally feel drawn towards translations. Interestingly, Cobalt Blue by Sachin Kundalkar, translated by Jerry Pinto and Simsim by Geet Chaturvedi, translated by Anita Gopalan were my favourite translations and books last year.


Not that translations are new to me. Saratchandra Chattopadhyay is one of my favourite writers, and I grew up reading his books and stories in Hindi. Of course they were translations. But I didn't realize that at that time. Now I feel bad that those books never mentioned the translator, and I didn't care.


So, now my reading pattern and choices are slightly different. I want to read, rather study, all those books on my TBR, for reading good books is one of the most effective ways to grow as a writer and translator.


Would like to quote Arunava Sinha from his recent insightful interview (on the website of Himalayan Retreat): 


You won't always find a word to word equivalent. But translators read. Writers need to read maybe a thousand books for each book they write. Translators probably need to read five thousand. Just read hugely. Both in the language from which and into which you’re translating. You will find words, expressions, and phrases popping and jumping out at you. If you don't read (almost maniacally), it's not going to work.’





Written for: The Write Path Blog Hop, hosted by Swarnali Nath


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Saturday, September 9, 2023

Being an Intuitive Writer/Painter



Recently, I came across a word called paracosm.


A paracosm is a detailed imaginary world created inside one's mind. This fantasy world may involve humans, animals, and things that exist in reality; or it may also contain entities that are entirely imaginary, alien, and otherworldly.


So, basically our mind is a paracosm. And it reminds me of another word called 'Jouska', which means 'a hypothetical conversation that you compulsively play out in your head.'


If you are a writer or artist, then you'd find it familiar. We have an always-occupied mind. 


Sometimes these scene plays and conversations are so vivid that they feel like complete stories that you write inside your head. I have written many stories like this and that's probably the reason that I have turned into an intuitive writer. Some scene or photo flashes in my mind and I just start writing. Sometimes it's microfiction, sometimes a flash piece. 


And then, one day, when I was reading Flatshare, I suddenly felt like writing an epistolary story, and then I did (in Hindi). And then one night, a strange thought came to my mind, and my fingers itched to write that implausible story, and I did (Hindi). 


And it has kind of become my tendency. No matter how much I (try to) plan the plot, I eventually end up doing my own thing. And it's fun! And I'm writing too many 'ands'.


The same goes for my painting. I begin painting without any planning or image in mind. 


In fact, all my posts for Blogchatter's Half Marathon (This post is the 10th and last post for Half Marathon) are intuitive. I didn't plan my posts. 


Thus, I completed the Half Marathon. :)




Thursday, June 29, 2023

Book Review: Simsim by Geet Chaturvedi, Translated by Anita Gopalan

 



Book: Simsim

Author: Geet Chaturvedi

Translator: Anita Gopalan

Publisher: Penguin Books

Pages: 236

Price: ₹297 (Hardcover on Amazon)

⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Stars!



'Old love is like the veil, part sunk in the ground, part swaying in the air. One can neither wrap it around oneself nor carry it along. Its shadow wavers on the sands of time.'

(From the book)

There's something about the oldness of things and places and people: they nestle numerous stories in their hearts. Simsim is a poignant story of love and loss; of memories, dreams and the wondrous world of books! Lots of books that dance in an old neglected library, and tell a few sections of this story as well.

'What you've lost, you will find again in books.'

There was a young boy called Basar Mal Jetharam Purswani who lived in Larkana, Sindh (now in Pakistan). He loved a girl and called her Jaam (which means guava in Sindhi) because whenever she was around, Basar Mal inexplicably felt the aroma of guava.  And there was an ignored Madarsa with a window where yellow flowers bloomed; where they often met in the silent afternoons. 

Then the cruelty of partition brought a painful separation. Years later, Basar Mal, in his old library, still dwells in her memories and still feels the aroma of guava.

'Every love is filled with a fragrance.'

Many years apart, in 2007, there's a nameless boy who loves a girl ―Imbello ― in his imagination, and one day, he finds her Imbello behind a shuttered window where yellow flowers bloom right in front of Basar Mal's library. The boy, a non reader, begins to visit Basar Mal's library and thus develops a unique bond with both Basar Mal and those old, soggy books that the old man devotedly cares for.

This story carries a tussle between the ongoing change and that stubborn refusal to adapt to the changes, a deep desire to stay cocooned inside the wraps of a sad, precious past. A fear that emerges before mingling into a new world. Memories of love that is lost, love that seems like a figment of imagination.

We are memory bombs. When we explode, we explode inward.'

The characters are interesting and raw ―Basar Mal, the nameless boy, Jaam, Jalo and the mysterious yellow-faced girl who stood at the shuttered window. Even Dil Khush samose waala.

The story is a little unconventional and the storytelling unique. It's beautifully written and equally beautifully translated. Every chapter reads like a short story itself. 

I turned the pages, marvelling at their depth and beauty. The pain of partition, the loss, memories, the changes over time, the nameless boy's complicated relationship with his father…everything is so delicately expressed.

Words are strung together lyricallyThe prose is poetic and then there are poems. I know, as a translator, that poems are difficult to translate, but Anita Gopalan has done a fabulous job. 

'Black arcs of kohl

hold the dreams of your eyes.

The little kohl that floated out your left eye,

don't you worry about it.

From the black pit of dreams, tell me, has anyone emerged unstained?'


'If ever you remember me,

touch a favourite book

and begin reading it.

A word of love

in any language

will eventually

always bring you to me.'

It is a unique story, gloomy yet refreshing, filled with deep wisdom and beautiful quotes that compel you to pause and ponder. It's exquisite, better to be savored slowly. One of my favourites!


Sharing some more favourites quotes:


'Works of art and literature are an affirmation of our inner strengths. The act of creation is an act of defying death.'


'The politics of power affects them the most who have nothing to do with either politics or power.'


'When all the negativity comes headlong towards us, the verses like an umbrella will shield us.'



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Sunday, November 15, 2020

Falling Into a Novel


(Image: Google; writer: unknown)


'I fell into a book and I can't get up.'


It actually feels quite romantic and fascinating.  The idea of visiting a place where nobody knows you. To be a silent watcher, while interesting characters play their parts. You don't have to bother about anything. I often think about getting lost in the stories and never come back, especially when a book and the characters stay with me. Or when I am disturbed. When nothing except stories makes sense. When stories seem like a saviour. 


What kind of novel that would be? Of course a happy delightful one, no? But what if you actually cannot come back? What would you do there? Especially after the story is over? You just have a bunch of characters around you; who are practically doing nothing, now that everything is sorted, well kind of. Nobody really knows you. The character you have been crushing on is already taken. Would you be able to befriend your favourite character? 

Would you even exist for them? Or would you be like a ghost that moves here and there but nobody actually notices. How long can you enjoy that life?

Would it be a little different if the story is open ended? Or what if your crush character looks at you, suddenly, and you just click!? (Okay, cancel it!).

Or maybe you could segue into the next story whenever you want? Does this post make any sense to you? Do I sound insane?



Saturday, August 10, 2019

Watercolor Painting: 5 Things I Learnt As A Watercolorist

Painted it recently {Reference photo: Unsplash}



Well, I am not an expert, to be honest. I am a self taught watercolourist, and started painting, or rather started painting properly, last year. Painting is one of the most unexpected activities that I am doing. There was a time when I couldn't even relate to the term 'Art & Craft'. But my interest in watercolour painting is not just one year old. I started some six years ago, then stopped. But there's a quotation by Michael Jordan:

'If you can't stop thinking about it, don't stop working for it.'

I stopped painting but I couldn't stop thinking about it, so I started again. This time, thankfully, I have managed to keep my enthusiasm alive. 

Now that I have started painting regularly, I realized that there are certain factors that matter when it comes to watercolour painting. And if we do not follow them, they might affect our painting in a negative way and can kill our enthusiasm. 

So, here I am sharing what I learnt. I'm not going to talk about regular painting lessons. I am talking about what works for me.

Reference photo: Pinterest


1. Good Watercolour Paper:

It's the most important lesson I have learnt as a beginner. Watercolour painting is a little expensive medium. But when we are beginners, we do not want to buy expensive art supplies, which is totally understandable. It's okay to not buy very expensive colours and brushes, but it's essential to buy good watercolour papers. A little expensive {There are some good brands that offer reasonable price} but totally worth it.

Honestly, I used to paint on regular drawing copy. And many a time, the results were frustrating. So, I started buying watercolour sheets. I paint on the both sides, as I don't want to waste paper.

2. Don't Expect Your Painting To Look Beautiful While You're Still Working On It:


Reference photo: Pinterest


I was painting a night scene and I felt that it was turning out really bad. So bad that I felt like leaving that unfinished and paint something else. Thankfully I didn't. I completed it and realized that it was not that bad. The next day, it looked even better. 

3. Don't Try To Recreate A Painting:

I don't know if you do this but I did it quite often. And again the results were frustrating. A painting is already a recreated version. And if you try to copy that recreated version, the results are usually not that satisfactory. For me, reference photos work best. 


4. Understanding The Reference Photos:

So, when I started to follow reference photos {and not paintings}, I tried, really hard, to recreate EXACTLY what I saw in the photo. Maybe because my imagination is very limited when it comes to painting. I realised it later that it suppresses your own creativity and imagination. Set your imagination free. Take the reference photo as inspiration and try your version. 

Reference photo: Pinterest
This one I tried to recreate exactly. Not very happy with the result.


5. Be Patient:

Watercolour painting requires patience and time. Don't rush to apply all the colours when it's still wet.  Let it rest for some time. Understand that you will make mistakes. Don't be afraid to make mistakes. That's the way we actually learn, no?


As I said I am not an expert. I'm sharing what I have observed. What worked for me. Please share your views.


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Saturday, May 19, 2018

Learning and Fear of Making Mistakes







When I was in school or even in college, my mind was full of apprehensions. I tended to over think.

I have realized that apprehensions hinder our growth, so now when I am a grown woman, I have finally learnt to control my apprehensions or to reason with them, at least, but hesitation is still there.

I don't think there's anyone with whom I am completely, absolutely free-minded. There would be some kind of hesitation, no matter how close or dear that person is (Except my 5 year-old).

It is not a very good thing, I know. But, it's my second nature, I'd say.

What causes hesitation? Fear. Fear of going wrong. And, sometimes people's reaction. How would they react? Well, it is also a kind of fear. That is why some students (like me) won't raise their hands in the class to answer any question. 'What if I am wrong?' They would think. This is why some students won't raise their hands to ask anything that they didn't understand. 'What if they think I am dumb?' They would think.

Think, presume, without realizing that it is restricting their knowledge, hindering the process of learning (Well, these days, Google solves so many problems though. Why ask anyone if there's Google, right?)

Learning, anything new, is beautiful. Today I am going to talk about learning different languages that I find quite fascinating!

People who manage to learn different languages amaze me. One of my aunts learnt Assamese because when she studied in Assam, there were no Hindi or English books available and she couldn't live without reading. She learnt Bengali and is a fluent Bangla reader as well. She often talked about Assamese/Bengali books, and one book that I especially remember is 'Na Hanyate (It Does Not Die) by Maitreyi Devi because I came to know that the movie  'Hum Dil De Chuke Sanam' was based on this book.

I found it really interesting and at the same time, I felt bad that my knowledge of language was so limited. Recently, Debeshi Gooptu, a friend and a wonderful storyteller, mentioned a short story on Twitter. She said that was one of the most beautiful stories she had ever read. I, obviously, felt tempted to read that story. But then she said it was a Bengali story. There's no translation available and I do not know this language. At least not that well that I can read a story.

But, it's my fault. I could've learnt this language. Easily.

'You are Bengali, right?' My classmates used to ask.

Some said that I looked like a Bengali girl. And, some applied this logic that just because my two close friends (These were the only girls in my school whom I could actually call friends) were Bengali, so, obviously I was supposed to be a Bengali girl. One very important thing they didn't notice that I never spoke Bangla with my friends.

I learnt Bangla alphabets, but I could never learn to speak (However, I can manage somehow if nobody knew any other language) that language.

Why? Because I felt odd speaking the language I didn't know well. I felt odd making mistakes in front of my own friends, close friends. So basically I hesitated to learn because of the fear of making mistakes.

Now, whenever I think about it, I regret it. So what if I had made mistakes, so what if they had laughed at my silly mistakes, I could have learnt a new language at least.

Of course, it's never too late to learn, but as we grow up, responsibilities, life/family related things become our priority and many other things take a back seat. Maybe, I can learn it someday (I have so many things to learn).

So, what about you? How many languages do you know? Is there anything you wanted to learn but could not?


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Saturday, March 3, 2018

Seize The Day!





The shadow of past
Overpowering future
Still and stiff present

New day arrives with
Renewed hopes and promises
Learn to seize the day!



When you try to make your day better, it means that you have moved on and learnt from your past (That's really important), and you are focusing on a better future as your tomorrow, to some extent, depends on today's efforts. So, yes. Seize the day!


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Saturday, January 14, 2017

9 Things I Have learnt As A First-Time Author - Part 1




If you don't know me or visiting my blog for the first time, then I would like to tell you that I published my first book, We Will Meet Again...last year. It's a mature love story of Paridhi and Abhigyan, an eccentric couple in a love-hate relationship. We Will Meet Again is not just about falling in love, it's about believing in love and growing in a beautiful relationship. You may like it if you like relatable characters and convincing situations.

It was a tough and long journey, and a learning experience too. With my book, I have grown. My writing process has changed. My approach is different now.

So, here I am sharing - not preaching - just sharing my learning experience. If you are an aspiring writer, you may find it helpful. If you are a new writer (Like me), please share your learning experiences. And, if you are an experienced writer (And still reading this post), please share your advice - what works best for you.


FIRST-TIME AUTHORS - YOU

SHOULD be very careful about your craft.

Being a debut author doesn't mean you can publish anything, and it would be excusable. Since you can self publish (any day), it does not mean you don't need to polish their work.

Think - think deeply how can you make your craft better.

SHOULD NOT take rejections personally and don't let your enthusiasm diminish. It's natural - rejection - for everything we try to do. Editors are not our enemies. If they reject our work, there must be some reason. We need to understand/find that reason, and work, work, work hard.

SHOULD write in a reader friendly voice

Your writing should be good. Clean, crisp and simple, not flowery. AVOID it. It doesn't work. Write in a manner that readers could connect with, and THIS connection is crucial.

SHOULD NOT save your best for later.

As a first-time author, your future (as a writer) is uncertain. Unlock your imagination, and put your best ideas into your first manuscript. Saving your ideas for your next book is not a good idea. New ideas float everywhere. Listen. Watch. Read. Observe. You will find many. Put your ultimate effort in making your first manuscript good. It's true that we, writers, write books, but eventually, a good book gives birth to a good writer.

SHOULD Try to break the cliche and build cliffhangers.

This is a little difficult especially if you are writing a romance (Like me!). I found it difficult, but I know it's not impossible even for romance. Think, think. It's not that difficult.
Conflict/cliffhangers and unpredictability are two important pillars of a good novel. Don't hesitate to experiment. It gives you a new vision. It offers new ideas. Sometimes, you need to write things that you think you shouldn't. Sometimes, your characters should do something you think they shouldn't.

There's no hard and fast rule for writing. Make your own rules. Again, there's no hard and fast rule for chapter length. Just make sure you end your chapters with a cliffhanger.


To be continued...


So, what do you think? What do you like/dislike in a book especially by first-time (Indian) authors? Please share your views.

Good Bye till We Meet Again. :)

9 Things I have Learnt As A First-Time Author - Part 2





Monday, November 21, 2016

Those who care...






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“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind” – Bernard M. Baruch.

That's true! Those who matter don't mind. They don't mind because they care. They don't judge, they understand. They help you flourish yet they love you the way you are. Those who care, care for your dreams. They give you space to take your flight and inhale freedom, and sometimes try to be your wings. Those who care don't expect you to change, but they can be a sliver of light that may lead you to the right path. With whom you can be yourself, speak without measuring your words. Because they know the real you, and they won't mind.

Those who care are very special and they deserve your time, attention and care.

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If you like delightful stories based on relationships, if you like relatable characters & convincing situations, and if you like my writing, you will like my book, We Will Meet Again...

You can buy the paperback @ a fab discount from Pustak Mandi 
 Buy from Amazon India   Amazon.com  Amazon uk (It's free for Kindle Unlimited users)




Thursday, July 28, 2016

The Power Of Going Slow. BM Day 14




You might have seen such a view if you have ever been to Himachal, Uttarakhand or any mountain area.

When I first saw this view for the first time, I grew thoughtful. I looked up and a small red temple at the top of the mountain caught my attention. How would I reach there? I knew I would but it gave me jitters. Our car moved ahead, reading several 'be careful, be safe' kind of boards. And, after some time, we crossed the temple. It was exciting. Enjoying the loveliness of nature. Vistas so mesmerizing that I skipped my beats.

This is the power of going slow. The roads, dangerous yet safely nestled in the arms of vast mountains (Deep valleys made me icky at times), are elevated gradually, and as we move, we don't even realize when, and how easily we reached there.

Can we reach there if we try to rush, trying to reach there on a whim? Trying to reach there at once?

I thought it's like achievement. Of course there are some people who get things easily but most of the times we need to struggle. Everything needs time. Achieving success demands patience.

When we rush, and try to achieve something immediately, there are chances we falter. Sometimes, we need to go slow. And, then, we won't even realize when we reached the zenith of success!


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Thursday, July 21, 2016

Time Cannot Heal Every Wound. BM Day 7


Okay, little bit of self-promotion today :)

My first book 'We Will Meet Again' is going to release on 31st July. It's a mature love story (okay, don't roll your eyes :)) If you like reading love stories, you will like it. It carries various shades of emotions. Light touch of humour and repartee.

You may click HERE to see the cover and blurb.

Leaving you with this quotation from my book. Tell me what do you think about it.


Yes, some memories haunt, and the impression they leave is so deep that they eventually become a scar. We all have our shares of agonies. But, life has its own rule. It tend to take you along and you simply have to oblige. In that case, learning to stay happy (and not whining) is a better option. Isn't it?


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P.S.: Poets United (A wonderful community for poets who blog) featured me this week. You can read my interview HERE. They are kind enough to share some of my watercolour paintings too. I know I am bad, still...



Monday, July 18, 2016

Don't let your problems beat you. BM Day 4



I was thinking about writing something else, but then I saw this image. A thought that I strongly believe in. Not because these words are inspiring but I have personally experienced it!




For non-Hindi readers it says "No problem is that powerful that we tend to believe. Have you ever heard that darkness of night has prevented the Sun from rising?"

I think we are stronger than we think we are. Sometimes, our strength is quiescent. But, it rises like a phoenix when the circumstances demand.

You might feel helpless this moment but when you find no one around you to help, you eventually find a way. Because, there is always a way. You just have to find that out.

We are lazy people. We like it when people help us. We love it when we get our work done by someone else. But, being dependent on someone is the worst thing, I believe. Nothing can beat the feeling of being independent.

But, life is difficult. Sometimes, you need a helping hand. It's a terrible feeling when people who help you in adversity make you feel insignificant. They may show it from their behaviour that they have done something for you (of course, there are some lovely people who help you wholeheartedly). They make you feel that you were incapable of handling your problems alone. People mostly fail to realize that if we have asked for their help it means that we trust them. We find them close enough to ask them a favour. It doesn't mean that we can't manage without them.

You are strong, and can tackle your problems without any help. Try yourself. Don't let your problems beat you. Beat them!


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Friday, July 15, 2016

Prejudice - Blog Marathon Day 1


So, I am writing my first post for Blogchatter Blog Marathon. It's called Daily Chatter. And, it's day one.

Will start this post with a thoughtful quotation.



"I am resigning from my job," one of my closest friends said. She worked as a lecturer in a college.

"Why?" was my instant response as she enjoyed her work immensely. Preparing for her classes, interacting with students and all that.

"Moving to a different city."

"Oh, that's okay," I said, not worrying a bit. "You can join some other college in that city."

"No, I can't do this!" she said. "That would be difficult in a big city. Different city. Different pattern." I could understand what she meant. But then, she said something that left me confused.

"Students would be smarter than me, there," she said.

How did she know that without even trying? Why this prejudice? After all they were still students, and she was an experienced teacher. It was even more confusing as my friend is very well qualified (NET qualified). She is dedicated and hardworking. She clearly underestimated herself.

However, I couldn't decide her career. So went on to join a big company in that 'different, big city' as a senior executive. I hope she truly enjoys her work.

But, it keeps me thinking. You think you are the smartest one in the group and you feel good about it. You hesitate to join people who are smarter than you. But, you don't realize that by doing this you restrict your growth. Your ability to perform better.

This feeling, that I am smart and know everything, hinders your development and your desire to learn. And, learning is a lifelong process. Isn't it?


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Friday, June 24, 2016

Let Things Go





Some emotions are so strong that we get stuck, unable to move on. But think, how would you greet a new morning if you are too fond of the last night? How would you travel if you are terribly homesick? Bad examples, maybe, but you got it, right?

Memories are like stars or moon. They are always there, sometimes flashing, sometimes quiescent. It’s not a good idea to make them a small sphere where you get trapped.  Let go of it, and move on. It doesn’t mean that you have completely detached yourself from them.

So, it was about life. Now, something about writing.

My book We Will Meet Again is going to release next month, and I have finally submitted my final edits (No editorial changes would be accepted now), and I am stuck in my manuscript with a deep sense of discontentment. Constantly thinking that it could have better. I could have added this. Could have removed that…and honestly, it makes my confidence and enthusiasm sink.


It’s obviously useful but point 6 made me thinking.

It says: Remember that, sooner or later, before it ever reaches perfection, you will have to let it go and move on and start to write the next thing. Perfection is like chasing the horizon. Keep moving.

Really, even my publisher Mr. Pulkit Gupta (Author of Life and Promises) said to me that at some point of time I will have to move ahead to the next level of publishing.

Improvement is a constant process that always keeps a room for itself. You tend to find some flaws or scope for improvement every time you go through your work.This tip and thought gave me some solace. Some solace because I’m still not calm. I am eagerly waiting for reader’s reviews. I’ll be happy if they are good. I will see my own writing in a new light if they are not so good. 





Sunday, March 6, 2016

JNU: All that anxiety and fuss




I am amazed how things take turns, and get twisted in our country. How thinking varies with caste, community and gender. The thing that's unfair is equally unfair for every single individual. It can't be categorised or enhanced or reduced differently for different people.

This JNU thing has created an uproar. Actually, to the extent which, I think, was not necessary. This is a topic that I tried my best to avoid. But couldn't.

What happened?

It was not anything unusual for JNU. They are people with amazing energy. But, disturbance started with some slogans that some students were shouting (And there's no doubt about it). Slogans that were not in good taste, and certainly not in the favour of our nation. It doesn't mean that the whole JNU was burning in this "Aazaadi"thing. It's not that difficult to understand that it's not about entire JNU. It's about a bunch of destructive anti-social, anti-national (Not aunty-National) elements. 

Then, out of nowhere, strange voices emerge in support of JNU and the problem that reeked of danger, seemed to tamper the sense of security, takes a back seat. Some called it idea, freedom of expression and Brunch (Hindustan times) called it intelligence!

Well, idea is a broad term, and can cover various things. Anything. From something constructive to destructive. In a place like college/University, ideas must breathe freely but don't you think it should be "constructive ideas"?

Then, "Freedom of Expression". In India, this term has evolved massively. But again, I'd say, it's a constructive term, and one cannot get away with "I-Am-Free-To-Do-Whatever-I-Want-To-Do" attitude in the name of 'freedom of expression'. With this meaning, anything and everything can fall under this category. Even those posters against Kanhaiya Kumar. Can one approve that? Certainly NOT!

I somehow felt that targeting Kanhaiya Kumar was a kind of distraction. It is important to know that: If not him, then who? Nobody seems to know. Not even JNU leaders who speak in a signature tone and style. It is like that filmy crime scene that happens publicly but nobody accepts that he/she was present there and has seen that happen.

Supporting what has happened at JNU doesn't make one cool or supremely intellectual. It's a serious issue and needs to be investigated thoroughly. If everything is clean, what could be better than that?

It's not an unusual thing if someone tries to damage the peace and integrity of our country. It happens quite often and engulfs several precious lives. If anything seriously dangerous happens, everyone starts blaming the Government and our security system very conveniently.

And Now!

When Kanhaiya Kumar is back, everyone is behaving like he has returned from the Border after a huge victory. As if he is a freedom fighter and the Government is like British rulers. It seems that opposition has taken this term quite literally. They think their job is just to oppose. Anything is fair for political benefits. And, it's so immature of BJP to react to Kanhaiya Kumar's speech like this. Media is vying for his interview! (Well, one can easily understand the competition of coverage. If they can show live telecast of serious and dangerous attacks then it is cypher in that comparison! After all it's a number (TRP) game)

It seems that everyone is unnecessarily portraying his heroic picture. Something he might have expected. To evolve as a revolutionary or politician.

Who is he? Student? No comments. Politician? Maybe, and it's okay. Revolutionary? A good thing to be but someone please tell me what this revolution is all about? What is this fuss about "Aazaadi"? Which kind of Aazaadi JNU students seek?




Thursday, March 3, 2016

Why would you un-follow people on Twitter? #SocialMedia








Social media presence is kind of essential for people's profile these days. When I say social media, I mean Twitter and blog. I'm definitely NOT talking about Facebook. I'm not a bit interested in FB. I love my blog and I find solace on Twitter. Ironic, isn't it? But, chaos of twitter keeps me calm and distracted (for a while of course) from anxiety.

Readers are more important than followers. Those who read your posts and are kind enough to leave you comments. I have an average readership (It's amazing to see bloggers who get 40-90 comments every post! And I sometimes I feel like my words don't even exist, just like my FB page). It's so sweet of Rudraprayaga who visits my blog regularly, and I truly thank her for this!

So, basically, interaction is important.

Recently, I read This interesting Post On Social Media by Alok Singhal, and I couldn't agree more. Every point is so relevant!

Then today, Shailaja V, a wonderful blogger who covers various interesting themes, conducted a poll on Twitter. Why would you un-follow people on Twitter? She gave four options, and asked to add options that's missing. I added two more options. That acted like a prompt and I decided to write about it.

So here are the options.

People on Twitter Who -

Are Uninteresting: Interesting or uninteresting, it depends on individuals. A thing that is interesting/relevant for me may not be interesting for others. But yes, I don't want to follow (I may not un-follow though) those who constantly tweet their pictures. I mean who wants to know how you looked/what you wore/what you bought every morning. It is so Facebook-ish!

Or some tweets are just endorsements. It's okay as social media is a great platform for promotion but why can't you post something interesting (other than endorsement) for a change?

Or some just whine about single thing every single day. It's annoying.

Or spread negativity with their depressing tweets!

Don't Follow Back: I don't do this, honestly! I'm very selective and sure about my following list but when I follow people I don't expect a follow back (Of course it feels nice when they follow back!). I follow many people who don't follow me.

But people often do this, following with an expectation of follow-back (and un-following when you don't live up to their expectation). My followers number go like this: 499 to 501, then 499, 496, then 502...it seems like a number game.

Tweet too often: I don't mind this until tweets are interesting/informative/thoughtful. But, if it's constant endorsements (I got it you have just released your book) and frequent RTs (that's not relevant to me), it's irritating!

Hardly tweet anything: This is boring. Why would I follow people who don't tweet anything for several months or years? I want to un-follow them after waiting for few months.

Follow you (Get your follow back) and then un-follow!: This is mean. When I joined twitter, I saw a very famous personality whose followers and following number were same (more than a lakh). In fact he wrote in his profile "I always follow back". It obviously attracted his fans. Then one fine day, he decided to declutter his following list. Now he followed just 200-300 people and his followers remained the same.

Last year, someone (a well known writer) followed me. I followed him back out of courtesy even though I haven't read his books. Then one day, he thought I was not good enough to be followed and un-followed me. I was new on twitter and I found it mean so I too un-followed him. Just few days back, he again followed me. I didn't and guess what? He un-followed me within a day!

Never reply: This is rude. How busy you could be to not reply? Even Ratan Tata replies to the tweet sent to him (He did to one of my friends). One can understand if you are a celebrity but if you are not, what does it take to reply to your readers or those who are saying something to you?

I like Preeti Shenoy. The way she interacts with her readers (On her blog and social networking sites). People read your tweets or blogposts. Take time to write to you and you just leave them unanswered. This is simply not done. You must respect/value your readers! Interaction builds connection, sometimes really good and valuable connections.

So, what's your Social Media Peeves?